i dont think its selfish at all i think everything we do should come with terms and condtions goals it can become a bit unhealthy to keep wondering so some have certain events to have closure so how is that selfish? she didnt say she giving him a time limit to come back she said a time limit to let it go so i guess the people who dont believe in the hoax are selfish too? i believe i just gave myself a move on event it can be a bit obsessive to some