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THe problem with alcoholism is that it destroys everyone around. Sad fact: alcoholics lie and victimize themselves. They can change...if they want.I am in no way trashing your dad. He has a choice, the family or himself, and right now he is choosing himself above you all. He can change. He needs to stop being selfish and start to care for his family who show everyday that he is loved.My opinion is that alcoholism is a social disease/ disfunction.Sure there are reasons for him to drink and go in to that destructive behaviour, but victimizing himself is killing all of you. You have the human right to be raised within an stable enviroment. Your future development depends on that as well.Choices. He is feeling miserable and makes everyone part of his mysery. That is very egoistic and not fair.The best way to help him is not supporting his addiction or finding excuses about why he behaves like that, the way is getting in contact with professionals. If he refuses, then for the sake of all of you, paperwork must be done.This is just my personal opinion. I am just bored of seeing families broken just because of the egocentricity of one particular member that only thinks about him/herself and drops out of solutions, like effective therapy for a change, because their patterns are more productive to them emotionally talking.
Thanks everyone for your support. I kinda wish I didn't post that now :oops: because I feel like im being selfish, I know I have nothing to complain about because so many kids have it WAY worse then me, and I feel for them... but it's getting worse everyday and I don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to tell a mentor or anyone, because they'll probably call police. and I don't want to live in a foster home or something. I don't want my dad going to jail either, because of course I love him... just not when he's drunk or high, but I can't even remember the last time he wasn't on drugs. Maybe once every 2 months he's sober, I can't even tell anymore! :evil: argue/
I just want to say you guys have already done all you can to help me, by being there for me. I'm silly for never realizing that there was so many wonderful people here, you are all so caring and sweet. God Bless you all bearhugGina: Thank you, and believe me I pray a lot, and I go to church every Sunday, and I know that God is in control ♥ Mjj: Your advice and kindness has made me feel a whole lot better. Thank you sooo much ♥ & while my parents may not be there for me, you all are and so is my strong faith in God. Thank you again. bearhugApplehead: I'm so sorry to hear what you have went through, but I'm glad your life is better now. Thank you so much for your support. I will stay strong for you all, for Michael, and for myself of course. Thanks again ♥ You all may not realize, but all of you have made me feel 1000 times better, I feel so loved and cared about here, I can't thank you enough, really.
...let me bleed to death....