Quote from: "Mj5StarChick"Well around my house it's the same except my mother is like Joe. She believes that getting whooped with a belt is discipline and that it is a way of showing a child that u love them. She thinks that because she always goes by "You spare the rod u spoil the child" which is probably what Joe was trying to use. I feel like Michael because even if we do something wrong there is no excuse for hitting a child with a belt or anything else. But basically they do this because excuse my language on this they would rather kick our ass before someone we dont know does. It is also said as a teaching for us to be rough or ready for if someone steps in our face but I won't start with that. But anyway Jermaine was talkin about this in the second Bashir documentary what we weren't suppose to see and i really didn't know what to say abt it but there is always going to be 2 sides to a story. Everyone takes the word abuse( a very strong word) in a diferent way and from a different perspective. The way Michael thinks of abuse is a totally diferent way Jermaine sees abuse which is normal. But we will never really know the whole story only God,Michael,and Joe will know.
I was raised on the idea that if you did something wrong, you get spanked. I get sick and tired of people comparing spanking to abuse. I was never beaten an inch of my life, my mother and father have never got so angry with me that they beat the crap out of me. If I did something that I was not suppose to do, they gave me a warning first, saying if I did that action again, I would get a spanking. Most of time, I would just listen. But the few times I did not listen, I got a spanken. Most people I know have grew up like this. And I don't believe it is a bad method, when done the right way. But what Joe did was NOT THE SAME as what my parents did. Joe did it a million times worse, and it seems in most cases, for no reason what so ever. Heck, when Michael talked about how Joe would make him strip naked and oil him down just so he get beat him, well that sounds more than just physical, but sexual abuse. What Joe did was wrong, of course. But not all parents who spank their children are not Joe Jackson.
